When people talk about meditation, there is sometimes an idea that techniques don’t really matter. Just meditate. Just sit. As long as you practice enough, eventually you will get somewhere.
There is some truth to this. No technique can replace actually practicing. But I also think learning different meditation techniques, and more importantly understanding the principles behind them, can make a huge difference.
Recently I thought of a simple analogy.
Imagine two first-grade students who have been asked to memorize a passage for school. The first child has no strategy, so he simply reads the passage from beginning to end again and again, hoping that eventually he will remember it.
The second child has learned a few techniques. He divides the passage into smaller sections and memorizes them one at a time. Then he practices connecting the sections. Maybe his parents play a recording of the passage in the car so he can hear it several more times during the day. Perhaps another child has even learned some memory techniques and uses associations or imagery to remember the material more efficiently.
All three children still have to do the work. There is no magical technique that allows them to memorize the passage without spending time with it.
But the right techniques can make the process much more efficient.
I think meditation works in a similar way.
You Still Have to Put in the Time
The foundation of meditation is always practice.
You can read hundreds of books about mindfulness. You can understand Buddhist philosophy, neuroscience, concentration, equanimity, and all kinds of meditation theories. But eventually, you still have to actually practice.
At the same time, this doesn’t mean technique is unimportant. Knowing more than one way to meditate can help you continue practicing when your circumstances change.
Suppose the only meditation technique you know is observing subtle sensations around the nostrils while breathing. That may work very well most of the time. But perhaps one day your mind is extremely busy. There are problems at work or things happening in your family, and those subtle sensations are simply too difficult to stay with.
If that’s your only technique, you may conclude, “I can’t meditate today.”
But suppose you also know that you can observe the movement of the abdomen. That’s a larger area, and the sensations of expansion and contraction may be much easier to detect. Perhaps you also know how to count the breaths or visualize the number while counting.
Suddenly you have options.
The point isn’t to collect meditation techniques like Pokémon. The point is that different techniques can be useful under different conditions.
Different Situations May Need Different Techniques
This becomes even more important when you try to bring mindfulness into ordinary life.
Some people simply find breath meditation boring. If that’s the only meditation they know, maintaining a regular practice can become difficult. But once they understand that mindfulness can be practiced with many different sensory experiences, suddenly there are many more possibilities.
Driving is a good example.
You could pay attention to breathing while driving, but your attention obviously needs to remain primarily with the road. So why not make the experience of driving itself your meditation?
You can notice what you see through the windshield, the sounds of traffic, the feeling of your hands on the steering wheel, and the sensations in your foot as you press the accelerator or brake. You’re training attention while remaining fully engaged with what you’re doing.
In fact, this kind of practice may make you a more attentive driver rather than distracting you from driving.
This is why knowing the principles behind a technique matters. If you think meditation means “pay attention to your breath,” your opportunities to practice are limited. If you understand meditation more broadly as training attention, you begin to see possibilities everywhere.
Sometimes Turn Toward the Problem, Sometimes Turn Away
Different techniques can also give you different ways of working with difficult emotions.
Suppose you have an important presentation coming up and you’re feeling anxious. One strategy is to turn toward the anxiety.
You might notice where anxiety appears in your body. Maybe there is tightness in your chest or throat. You may notice mental images of yourself giving a terrible presentation and everyone judging you. You may hear inner talk saying, “I don’t know if I can do this.”
Instead of experiencing all of that as one giant thing called anxiety, you can begin to separate it into mental images, mental talk, and bodily sensations. Then you observe those experiences directly.
But sometimes the emotion is simply too intense, and turning toward it doesn’t seem helpful.
In that case, you can turn away.
You might put your attention on something neutral, such as breathing. The important part is that you’re not trying to force the anxiety away. You let it remain in the background without fighting it while gently keeping your attention on the breath.
It’s a little like saying, “I’m going for a walk to clear my head.”
You’re giving the emotional system some space to cool down.
Neither strategy is always better. Sometimes turning toward an emotion is exactly what you need. Sometimes turning away and resting attention somewhere neutral is more skillful.
Knowing both gives you a choice.
Meditation Has to Fit Into a Real Life
This flexibility matters especially for those of us living ordinary lives.
If you’re a monk practicing for many hours every day, perhaps one or two techniques are enough. You have deliberately structured your life around practice.
Most of us don’t live like that.
We have jobs, children, relationships, responsibilities, commutes, changing schedules, and unpredictable problems. Even our emotional state changes from day to day. A technique that works beautifully this month may suddenly become difficult when life changes.
Maybe right now you have thirty minutes every morning to meditate. Then your child’s school schedule changes and suddenly that time disappears. You can either wake up earlier, or perhaps learn how to practice during your commute.
The more you understand meditation, the easier it becomes to adapt practice to your actual life instead of waiting for your life to provide perfect conditions for meditation.
And this is one reason I like the definition used in Unified Mindfulness: meditation can be understood as a form of attention training.
That makes the whole thing much less mysterious.
Once you understand that you’re training attentional skills, it becomes obvious that training doesn’t have to happen only while sitting quietly on a cushion. You can train while walking, commuting, driving, working with difficult emotions, or doing ordinary activities.
Good techniques don’t remove the need for practice. They help you practice more consistently, in more situations, and in ways that fit what is actually happening in your life.
You still have to put in the time.
But knowing how to practice can help you make much better use of the time you already have.
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